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Barbara Henry

Barbara resides in the Single Motherhood with her daughter where she is currently finishing up work on a BA in Gender & Women's Studies. Check her out at A Place of Comfort.
 
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Its not always easy to put into words the experience of growing up in a rough neighborhood, one where drugs and crime have the upper hand. I remember being almost immune to the sound of gunshots because they were so common. I also remember, one morning on my way to get the bus for school, having to walk the sidewalk where a woman had been killed the night before. And then, there was the time when gunshots rang out, on my street, at 7:30 in the morning, hitting both intended and non-intended targets.  I would have been amongst those gunned down had I not already been at school because of an early leadership class that year. Heavy experiences for youth and even heavier experiences for parents who desire to live and raise their children in peace and without fear of them taking a bullet that was meant for someone else.

Sadly, it was not much of a surprise when I saw the local news report of a 23 year old, pregnant, mother of 2 who was gunned down last week.  Because, that’s just the kind of reputation the city of Richmond, CA has.  Just this past Sunday, a small group of guys actually walked into a church in Richmond and opened fire. A church! Luckily, nobody died, but two people were hit. Its pure senseless madness in my hometown, and it has me wondering, what will come of us? Us as people who still live in neighborhoods like this. Us as people who want to go back to our neighborhoods bearing resources. Us as a people. Period. Do you have any idea how much of a challenge it is to rise above these kinds of conditions?  Living in the middle of a war zone when every direction points in, instead of out?  Knowing that the larger society frowns at the thought of projects, ghettos and hoods and the people in them?  Things must change.

You see, the people who are overtaken by these conditions are not just casualties of the inner city, parts of the problem, but the ordinary and the extraordinary.  And sometimes, the extraordinary are never discovered in these places because not enough people give a damn.  I feel for the children of this slain woman. In a split second of blatant ignorance, a 5 year old little girl was not picked up from Kindergarten by her mother, a 4 year old little boy got to contribute the balloons that were suppose to be for his birthday party to his mother’s make-shift memorial outside of his great-grandfather’s house, and a baby will never get to take its first breath.

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Growing pangs revisited

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Last week, my daughter pulled a stunt that got me thinking about the stages of childhood.  Infancy, toddlerhood, the preschool phase and adolescence.  The level of creative thought behind said stunt made it clear to me that we are well approaching the stage of adolescence.
That beautiful, bright-eyed angelic figure you

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Like mother, like daughter

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Both, my daughter and I, have been very blessed over the past 6 years, to be surrounded by individuals who are all heading in the same direction.  We live in a relatively safe community of students, with an elementary school in a good district, right in our backyard.  This was

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My brother’s keeper

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When I was about 8 years old, my grandmother made the decision to adopt a new baby.  It was a beautiful gesture, considering the fact that this new baby was coming from a drug addicted mother, who happened to also be a cousin.  Not only would this baby have the

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Death of a Black Woman

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A really good friend shared this poem with me a while back and I found it to be very moving and powerful.  A great testament to the strength of the black woman, and how we both play into that strength and sometimes get played by that strength.  Unfortunately the author

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American girl

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As I sat and looked through an American Girl catalog that I received in the mail, I was both fascinated and horrified by what it contained.  Its a catalog of baby dolls and accessories for girls ages 3 and up.  Not much harm there, right?  What little girl doesn’t have

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Dating and the single parent

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What do you call a single mother who has a boyfriend?  Well, you’d still call her a single mother…
I know a host of people who have mixed feelings about ready-made families. I’ve heard everything from “I don’t date women with kids” to “I’m not trying to be nobody’s mama”. My

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Mama bears on the move

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Appropriating the thoughts of Denene of My Brown Baby, here is “yet another reason why mothers totally rock.”  In the case of student parents at the University of California, Berkeley, its yet another reason why student mommies totally rock!
Introducing:  The Bear Pantry.  The brain child of my friend, and fellow

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Living Single

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As a single mother, I have grown accustomed to being the boss.  I don’t have to check in with anyone to see if its ok to have company over, give a friend a ride home, or invite a friend and her children along on an outing.  I have to say,

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Little Asian girl in a bubble

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Sometimes I have to keep reminding myself that not everything in life is obvious, that our notion of “common sense” is simply the core of what ideologies are based on, and that in a world of difference we will never stop learning from each other.
Asian Girl In a Bubble: Are

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A sext(ual) healing

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I originally talked about the cultural phenomenon of “sexting” at A Place of Comfort, but after watching Tyra’s Teens and Parents Sex Summit earlier this week, I thought it could be beneficial to bring the discussion over to Moms of Hue.  It was beyond shocking to hear the teens on

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Old school ideology

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Some time ago, I found a question about this doll in my inbox.  One that, if answered “correctly” would charge an ultra racist offense against the popular chain, Costco.  Appearently, this African American doll, wearing a hat that reads Lil’ Monkey, was sold by the chain briefly.  Briefly, because a

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